It can be really tough to talk to your partner about something that is displeasing about them. In fact kindling a discussion that is concerned with your partner’s obesity can be equal to entering a minefield. Something that you may obviously come across after you start off such a conversation is a cold response or maybe even a sulk attitude. However, you may majorly harm your partner by never telling him/her about it. The circumstances take an even more worse turn if the obese partner is a woman. Eventually, we all have to accept the truth that to some extent figure stats do tend to attract men, and if yours start going beyond the normal limits you can expect them to ditch you anytime. In fact some divorces are based solely on the obesity issue. Read also: You Get a Guy to Like You Even if You Are Overweight!
It was just a week back when my spouse initiated a discussion about this, and he did it an almost perfect manner. So, I am going to use this discussion to put an example in front of you of like how you should be approaching. There may be some changes and alterations in your relationship after this talk but trust me they would be for good and not worse if you state everything in a diplomatic manner.
Step One – Look out for the right time
There is an appropriate time for every talk and for a talk that is related with the obesity the best time would be of when the obese person starts a topic about the issue on his/her own. I would like to discuss an experience of my own in here. I was very fond of sleeping and most of the time used to snuggle myself into the cushion after which I had to always struggle to get up from there. One fine day, my spouse came up to me and said, "I've observed your botherations from time to time" to which I assented and then stated that "can you think of some other problem that your size has got?" It was really tactful on his part to talk like that.Step Two – Pour out your notions
Give a chance to your obese partner to talk about it for a while. Make sure that you use bolstering comments in between while he/she is talking. You would be amazed to listen to the things that they pour out of their hearts as you engross yourself in their talks. Your sentences can be something like "I've noticed it seems to be making you more grumpy" or something similar. If it would have been something like "And you keep snapping at me" then I doubt if it would have had any effect.Step Three – Consider coming up with a solution
It’s always better to adopt the path of trueness and discussion rather than of cheating. So, if you both just sit together and think of a solution that is suitable for both, I am sure that you would be able to reach worthy decision. In such cases it’s important for the partner to be supportive. It may be tough to follow a rigorous diet regime but not when you have a partner along.It would a lie if I state hat it’s an easy thing to do but would surely say that it’s the right thing to do. If you partner is obese, it troubles him/her equally as it does to you. So, the situation would require you to be tactful enough to take things forward and come up with a viable solution.